One of the hardest things to do is to open ourselves up to another person. This act of opening ourselves up is scary. It is frightening. It can sometimes feel overwhelming because we aren’t sure if we are ready to let someone in. However, this is what we want, right? We want someone to listen to us and to hear what we have to say. We want to let ourselves let that story out and into the universe. The act of being vulnerable allows for human-beings to create closeness with another individual within a relationship that may be otherwise deemed as a non-relationship.
Usually, I am very private and selective in my disclosure of personal feelings. I am very much afraid of letting myself become close to someone through the act of vulnerability. However, this is how we become close to people. We have to make the conscious decision to risk it all for the sake of a friendship or romantic relationship. A few days ago, one of my beloved friends said that getting to know someone can be exhausting and time-consuming. Yes, this can be true. This is usually always the case. However, we have to be patient in this process. It takes time for people to open up to us. It’s just natural. It’s an act of self-preservation. We want to make sure that this person is trustworthy and sincere in their closeness to us.
Why is closeness important? Closeness is important because it creates an intimacy that is fulfilling. We can go to that person with our hearts and believe that they will not hurt it. They will treat it with care. They will listen and nurture us. This is closeness. It is this act of laying aside our doubts and pursuing the other individual with an open heart within a space of acceptance that we yearn for in our lives. There is nothing like baring yourself naked in front of another person. It’s an awakening. It’s liberation. It’s mind-blowing.
For me, the act of becoming naked in front of another person is intimacy. This is vulnerability. I believe this is probably one of the hardest, but most liberating thing that you could ever do in your life. In my experiences with this, I find it transformative. This is transformative because vulnerability entails trust. We no longer want to keep our feelings inside. We no longer want to keep to ourselves. We want to share our world with another person.